*caution: The word “community” is about to be used a lot. Sorry. I don’t know a better alternative.
All of the girls were talking about some things today and trying to process life here in Iraq and some of our struggles. I’m think I’m quoting Christin who said, “Probably the best thing about this summer: community. Probably the hardest thing: community.”
One thing we’ve wrestled with is how to exactly handle is the community here.
Let me set the scene: There are 7 long-term team members here in the city. 2 kids. And 8 college students. The 8 students, 2 kids, and 2 of the long-termers are all living under one roof. These are all the people that we work with, live with, play with, pray with and worship with. Every aspect of life here is with these people. We are also not allowed to go out by ourselves. So we have to rely on each other. This is communal living at it’s finest… also like I’ve never really lived it before.
Before I left, this was something I talked about, worried about and prayed about. It is important that we are united in the spirit. Community is something that the enemy can so easily destroy. Community is something that I thrive on and rely on. It encourages me as well as refines me. It’s the body. And something that I’ve grown to long for and treasure.
At the beginning of this summer, we were all pleasantly surprised by the unity we had. We came together at night to share life stories. We prayed together at least weekly, confessed to each other, played cards together. I was shocked. I guess I never actually thought that real community was possible. (Why did I think that God was not capable of that?)
Then weeks 3 and 4 hit. The new-ness and the “honeymoon” phase was over. We got tired. There was no energy left to come together. So we basically stopped. Not completely. Some of us wanted alone time. Others of us hung around at night, attempting to play games and sometimes complaining/talking about (not sure if it was complaining)/trying to solve our lack of community.
Around this same time, I slowly started to wake up later and later, meaning that the my time in the Word and with the Lord grew shorter and shorter until it was a quick flip of the Bible in the morning (if that) and a few prayers scattered throughout the day.
All this time, we’re still talking about how we lack unity, etc. etc. Some people sought solitude. If 6 out of the 8 of us were in one room, it’s like it wasn’t good enough. But if 2 were being filled through their alone time, what does that mean about the rest of us? Do we hold off our coming together to wait for the other 2, who might not even want to come together? I sought to put an end to the Internet (a new addition to the house, which allowed us to be on our computers at night). What I didn’t seek was Christ.
Only today did we start to really dig deeper into our apparent lack of community. The connection was made that when I fell off the discipline track, I began to seek fulfillment in those around me. When our discipline suffered, our community suffered.
There is definitely a difference between actually real community and a “sense” of community. I was trying to grasp and hold onto the emotional high of coming together and feeling like we were close, not actual let’s-dig-in-and-live-life-together.
Fulfillment needs to first come through Christ. Community is definitely a part of that and for sure enhances our walk with the Lord. It is not at all a subsitute, but a supplement.
Tonight at homegroup, we sang the song “Give Us Clean Hands” and one line hit home with me like it never had before: “Let us not lift our souls to another.”
I hope that these are lessons I carry with me… to my friends, to my roommates, to small group. May we (may I) seek Christ before others and know that fulfillment comes from Him, primarily and ultimately.
*disclaimer: Christin and I just realized we were posting almost the exact same thing. Even some of our wording is quite similar. Check her’s out for a different twist: www.grace-for-peace.blogspot.com Talk about community, eh? At least we’re like-minded in something!